From Full Marriage Equality:
I am currently in an emotional, spiritual and sexual relationship with my genetic half-sibling. [...] Yes, we are going to get married. We
can do it legally because legally we are not related. My birth
certificate has different parents and I have a different last name.
[...] He
is my father’s son from a brief relationship/marriage when he was 18
years old. My father left him and the relationship when he was an
infant. I remember meeting him once when I was 12 but I did not
understand who he was. I remember thinking how great he was and how
gorgeous he was! He finally told me in the later years that I asked him
to marry me twice, once when I was 7 and then when I was 12. When I was
20, he came into my life for the first time that a can truly recall
vividly and our familial relationship was explained; that I had an older
brother I did not know. So in my mind, we did not meet until I was 20
and I did not feel a brotherly love for him at all.
[...] It
was an instant and overwhelming sexual attraction when I was 20. We
tried to act the part for months but at one point it was too
overwhelming and we kissed. I initiated the kiss. He was sitting on the
couch and I just moved towards him and I kissed him. That did not feel
wrong or gross. It felt like love. We soon started a sexual relationship
which ended after about after six months when we decided to not see
each other. The sex was amazing and loving, not like the sex I had prior
to meeting him. I always felt guilty and punished myself emotionally
for the shame I felt. I was so confused about my feelings and felt dirty
and evil, especially in the religious and moral sense.
[...] We
have been in a loving, committed, sexual relationship since reuniting
two and a half years ago. It is funny that people we meet envy our
relationship- the honesty, respect, love, trust and kindness we have for
each other, but if they knew about our background, we would be judged
and shunned. We laugh, hold hands, vacation, cook together, cry
together, kiss each other good night and read in bed- just like every
other married couple. From what I have witnessed of married couples in
my circle of friends and family, our relationship is one of the best and
strongest around. It does not feel kinky at all, it feels normal and
natural. I find him extremely attractive and I have never enjoyed sex
prior to him. He is my dream man in bed and out. Just a light passing
touch from him can ignite passion in me. It would feel odd to be with
someone else sexually. The romantic love is not raw, it is sensitive and
loving (the only way I can think to describe it) I would say we are
married spiritually and physically. He is everything I want in a man. I
feel as if he is the lost side of my heart and soul and that we are
complete when we are with each other. I miss him when I don’t hear his
voice every day or feel his kiss on my lips or his breath on my neck at
night when I sleep. He is my best friend and my lover, what more could
anyone want?!
[...] His mother now
remains our strongest support and I love her as my “soul” mother. To
keep our privacy, when we move in together we will be living
approximately three hours from where I was raised and where he currently
lives. [...] I just wish we could be honest with everyone
in our lives. I want to share my joy and happiness with the people I
love. I am grateful for his mother and our friends that support us in
all we do.
[...] I understand that
many think what we are doing is wrong. At this point in my life, he
makes me a better person. I am a Christian and he makes me want to be a
better person. God is strong in our lives and I believe that we will be
blessed as husband and wife, whether it be lawfully under God or under
human law is irrelevant. Because I did not really meet him until I was
older, the only memories I have are ones of him being my object of
affection so if anyone would disapprove, I say to them that they need to
worry about their own relationships, not mine. I am an adult and so is
he. We have both had long-term relationships and we have chosen to be
with each other after all these years. We are both attractive and fit
adults and would definitely not have a problem getting dates, we just
choose each other! I am here to say that I do and can consent and it
would be devastating to lose him. I feel as if I deserve to be happy and
so does he.
[...] In addition to
getting married, we would like to have children in the future if we are
blessed enough to get pregnant. We are lucky we are older and can make a
home for ourselves and distance ourselves from negative influences and
start our lives together.
[...] I
thank God for him every night. My experience with GSA has been an
amazing journey but we would love to have a support group to discuss the
trials and tribulations we experience. Thank you so much for your blog;
it truly gave me the courage I needed to continue on with our
relationship and realize that we were not alone.
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