Yet Another Couple Denied the Freedom to Marry
From Full Marriage Equality:
I was raised in a normal family, with plenty of guidance
in accepting people even if I didn't agree with situations or choices.
However, I would say I craved love. I have a lot of love and affection
to give and spend a vast amount of my time helping others in need.
I
found out about my situation early into my teens - that the man who had
raised me was not my biological father, but someone else was - I shall
call him Chris. Chris had many commitment issues and I had many half
siblings, only two of which welcomed me. They were excommunicated from
the family circle, so to speak, and had been neglected by our genetic
father. I didn't trace my half siblings until I was into my 20s, not
because I didn't want to, but due to the lack of resources and the
spitefulness of my mother.
I currently live with my half brother and our children (his) & (mine). We’re together happily, like any other couple.
[...] I
tracked my [half-brother] via the Internet and contacted him. He had been looking
for me all those years; he had remembered me. He had a different mother
and my mother had left my father so we had been only around each other
the minimal amount of time, to begin with anyway. [My half-brother] is
older than me by 6 years but we are on an even wavelength with the same
interests and hobbies.
[...] Before him, I
didn't know what was missing but I knew I didn't quite feel like I
belonged with anybody or that I fit in with people. When he came into my
life it was like the whole world had stopped and for once everything
was perfect. I didn't need to question anything; he was exactly what my
life had been missing. I was home, my heart was at ease and I finally
knew what love was in its most amazing form.
The first meeting was
quite funny, I'd been told stories about this person and created this
illusion in my head of this rough and rugged full-of-anger person. But I
stood shocked that day. This man was sweet and thoughtful - everything
my illusion was not. He was perfect. However, there was no attraction at
that moment. Just a perfect connection.
[...] We
both, after about 11 months, were feeling something but neither had
confirmed this with the other. It was an evening he had been around and I
had already had vivid dreams of him and this yearning for him was so
powerful. I had carried out research and found Genetic Sexual Attraction information and forums.
This made me feel normal but I still didn't know how to tell him for
fear of repercussions. I was playing around on You Tube one night whilst
he was cleaning up and came across a song, “Love Him Out Loud.” [...]
He could never possibly know, but he did at that moment [...]. We talked
about our feelings for 4 days before anything happened. But when it did
- I'd never felt more alive. We both played our part and embarking on
our relationship was a mutual decision.
[...] This
love - the connection is so intense but yet so beautiful. We feel as if
we have been made only for each other. In honesty, neither of us have
ever felt this kind of love. To describe it, it's like the moment I
looked down on my newborn son with such an overwhelming intense
unconditional love. I've never felt so complete, so in love with another
human or even had such restraint, such patience in disagreements.
Instead, we have more understanding. Even now, down the line, it still
feels like a new love, it hasn't dulled but grown. We are physically
closer and emotionally closer and I can't imagine ever having this bond
with any other human. He is the yang to my yin, my twin flame, my best
friend. I never felt confused or deluded. It felt right and still does.
[...] He
is my brother first and my partner second. I can distinguish between
the two. We live together and let others assume whatever they want to.
We want to marry and be together properly but stupid ancient laws
prevent us. Yet we are at our most happiest together.
[...] No
one is aware we are in a relationship. To everyone, we are brother and
sister. If we are visiting somewhere new on holiday, perhaps we can be
husband and wife then. I limit the information I give people, keeping
them at arms length. [...] They need proof and unless they are with us
they won't have any.
[...] I would love to tell
them this: I have been a victim to men all my life in every cruel way.
My [half-brother] may be a relative of sorts but he is the only man I
could trust with my life. He would never do anything I didn't agree to
or want. People can think this is disgusting or disturbed, but in
reality when you have suffered as I have, you realise this isn't a
heinous crime, and should never be punished as such. He didn't know me
as a sister nor did I know him as a brother. He is a man that I fell in
love with. [...] We hurt no one. [...] It's a man and woman together
regardless of who they are to one another. This goes the same for
homosexual couples; they share love and happiness. Should this not be
all that matters in a dire world we live in? People need to be more open
minded.
If caught in my country my [half-brother] could face up to 14 years
in prison but yet a man who rapes or molests 1-3 girls under 15 with a
15 year age gap will serve just 3 years! [...] My brother’s only “crime”
is love. There are worse things in this world than being in love with a
relative or someone of the same sex.
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